Your biggest fan.

I read “Misery.” Saw the movie, too. I recall Stephen King talking in an interview about his inspiration for the novel, i.e. meeting his fans, and how quickly they can turn from “I love every word you’ve ever written, including the grocery lists” to “I will kill you, you motherfucker.” Usually this happens because you’ve turned down a fan’s perfectly reasonable request, perhaps that you come to their home, lay hands on their dying grandparent, and then stand as godparent to their child.

I have listened to “Stan,” the Eminem song that gave the world “stan,” lower-case, as a word for a certain kind of superfan. I’m aware of the Swifties, the Beyhive, and probably a dozen other self-named fan groups. There was an Amazon series a year or two back about a woman who was devoted to a fictional pop star similar to Beyonce, and I watched it, or enough of it. And Kate’s partner works at a local business founded by a local celebrity, and he talks about the superfans who come in, and solemnly hand the staff pictures they’ve drawn and other stuff, begging that they pass it along to that celebrity.

So I know that today’s fandom is nothing like yesterday’s, at least in my opinion. (Yes, I know about the suicides after Rudolph Valentino’s death, ditto Elvis, but the internet changed everything, and you’ll never convince me otherwise.)

This week I read the New York magazine piece on Neil Gaiman, the fantasy novelist. It starts out being a fairly familiar piece about Gaiman being, as we say now, “problematic,” but if you stick with it, it gets darker and darker, and while I have a long-standing policy of judging art, not artists, I finished it tempted to burn every Gaiman book in my possession. (One, as it turns out, with another on the Kindle app.) He stands revealed as not just a sexual abuser, but a sexual assailant, a particularly nasty variety of same, as well as a parent who should probably never see his child again. His ex-wife, Amanda Palmer, doesn’t come off much better.

There will no doubt be plenty of commentary on Gaiman, and the claims made by the women in the story, but I want to talk about fandom, as described in two short passages from a very long article:

Women would turn up to his signings dressed in the elaborate Victorian-goth attire of his characters and beg him to sign their breasts or slip him key cards to their hotel rooms. One writer recounts running into Gaiman at a World Fantasy Convention in 2011. His assistant wasn’t around, and he was late to a reading. “I can’t get to it if I walk by myself,” he told her. As they made their way through the convention side by side, “the whole floor full of people tilted and slid toward him,” she says. “They wanted to be entwined with him in ways I was not prepared to defend him against.” A woman fell to her knees and wept.

People who flock to fantasy conventions and signings make up an “inherently vulnerable community,” one of Gaiman’s former friends, a fantasy writer, tells me. They “wrap themselves around a beloved text so it becomes their self-identity,” she says. They want to share their souls with the creators of these works. “And if you have morality around it, you say ‘no.’”

It’s not a spoiler to reveal that Gaiman did not have morality around it, at least with some of them. But mercy! That quote about self-identity — that hits the nail on the head. I have my own fan enthusiasms, to be sure, but they begin and end with wearing a band’s T-shirt to their next show. I’ve met enough people I admire to know that “never meet your heroes” advice is sound. And yet, today’s fandoms seem to always take it too far.

It’s the larping and the cosplay — speaking of two words I had to look up, and not that long ago — and the WhateverCons and the fanfic (another one) and the cultivation of websites and Reddit groups, so you can find other people who share your enthusiasm and will talk-talk-talk about it with you forever. Until it seems perfectly reasonable to fall to your knees, weeping, when the object of your obsession passes close by. And those people become sitting ducks for the sort of abuse Gaiman dished out. (It should be noted that the worst of the abuse detailed in the article was inflicted upon babysitters, but there were ugly incidents with fans, too.)

Fans are important, of course, but if you ever wonder why your favorite actors, musicians, writers, et al have to live behind walls and fences, and rarely go out in public, and have to hold themselves aloof from the rest of humanity, well, this is one reason.

Various people have postulated over the years that the loss of religion on a wide scale led to…all sorts of stuff. Our obsession with our bodies, with food and diets, our naive belief that we are somehow perfectible. It suggests that worship — of God, of heroes — is something we need. Jesus is a pretty good role model, all around. Beats a novelist.

How’s your week going?

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37 responses to “Your biggest fan.”

  1. Little Bird said on January 14, 2025 at 11:40 am

    I’m very disappointed and disgusted by Gaiman. I have SEVERAL of his books. I love those books. So this is very distressing for me. I got to meet him when his wife Amanda was emceeing an animation festival here in Santa Fe. I’ve got a picture taken with him. I’ve got a picture of her holding her baby on her head while watching the different animated shorts.
    I don’t think I’ll destroy what Gaiman things I already have, but I won’t be purchasing any more. And I won’t be recommending his works to anyone.

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  2. Heather said on January 14, 2025 at 11:56 am

    I commented about Gaiman on the other thread, but yeah, his ex-wife (Amanda, not Miranda, just FYI, Nancy) is a piece of work. She’s well-known for exploiting fans by getting them to work for her for free, as happened with the babysitter in this story, while pulling in thousands and thousands of dollars every month on Patreon.

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    • nancy said on January 14, 2025 at 12:23 pm

      Thanks for the fix. I looked at that and thought, that isn’t right, is it? Should have listened to my gut.

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  3. Jeff Borden said on January 14, 2025 at 12:00 pm

    People who immerse themselves in fantasy are often sad and lonely. There’s an episode of one of my favorite shows, ‘What We Do in the Shadows,” where the vampires need a virgin to feed on. They demand their “faniliar” go out and find one, so he visits a gathering of “Dungeons & Dragons.” There is no shortage of sad, lonely virgins living vicariously through role playing.

    As a one time TV critic, I met scores of famous people. The job demanded not being a fan, but honestly, I never would have anyways. They’re generally not very interesting. Two exceptions: Kirk Douglas and Burt Lancaster. They told wonderful stories, had a sense of history and spoke in quotes. Now, that was cool.

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  4. Dexter Friend said on January 14, 2025 at 12:13 pm

    Kerouac died in Florida in 1969 before I had read “On the Road”. Now I have read everything he ever wrote and would not be timid to speak to him if he was alive and I saw him somewhere. Bukowski , I would leave alone. He would be intimidating.
    Most of the celebrities I have encountered are sports folks, naturally, as I am a sports fan.
    John Madden on an Amtrak, Tony Kubek exiting a cab in Chicago, John Wooden at a urinal in Atlanta at the finals. Gil Hodges signed a baseball for me when I was 14 and he was managing the old Senators. I had a brief conversation with Don Sutton in Wrigley Field 59 years ago. I got a real kick out of serving 2 Frescas to Senator Birch Bayh when I was in The Young Democrats while in high school.
    I didn’t speak with Agnew, but yelled at him in Fort Wayne in 1972 over the bombings, which made page 1 , NYTimes, which I only found about last year in the archives.
    Many of my compatriots told me I should have been a sportswriter or broadcaster of sports.
    When you are on your own and are living one day at a time, you do what it takes to get to the next day. The fact that I got through military conscription and 30 years on a factory floor is a feather in my cap. Or is it?

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  5. Suzanne said on January 14, 2025 at 12:40 pm

    Regarding Gaiman, I repeat what I commented on the last post:
    I read one Neil Gaiman book, American Gods, and thought it perfectly awful. There was so much disgusting behavior and gratuitous violence and sex that I couldn’t grasp why it’s so well regarded. It’s tone leaves me able to realistically believe that he’s been up to some creepy behavior.

    I don’t really understand the whole cosplay thing. I attended a “Renaissance Faire” somewhere in Ohio a few years ago with a club that I was a part of at the time. It was strange to say the least. I thought it would be more like a re-enactment kind of thing (think Williamsburg, VA) but it was not. Grown people wearing elf ears, dragon wings, jodhpurs, Crusader tunics, peasant dresses, masks, etc. There was a comedy show that was not funny, the food was standard fast food type stuff. I couldn’t understand what people get out of it.

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  6. Bitter Scribe said on January 14, 2025 at 12:41 pm

    I’m not into sci-fi and never heard of Gaiman, but this is calling to mind an appalling article I read in the New Yorker recently about Alice Munro, one of my favorite fiction writers (it’s a short list) and winner of the Nobel Prize for Literature. She didn’t abuse anyone directly, but she enabled the abuse of her youngest daughter by her second husband, pooh-poohing the clear signs and sticking with the guy for years and years after he ADMITTED the abuse.

    Lest anyone think I am picking on the woman here, let me add that her first husband, the victim’s father, sure doesn’t come off any better. As depicted in the article, he’s a dolt who willingly returned his daughter to a household where she complained of being abused.

    As for the actual abuser, he was a blowhard who talked and talked about Lolitas and vulnerable older men until you were ready to take him out and shoot him. (The victim was NINE YEARS OLD when the abuse started.) He was unfortunately allowed to die of natural causes, in his own bed.

    How can people be so smart in their work and such idiots in their actual lives?

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  7. Deborah said on January 14, 2025 at 2:11 pm

    I read that Alice Munro piece in the New Yorker and I thought it was a sad, sad situation. I love Munro’s work and have read much of it over the years. Munro must have been a conflicted person, she herself had a complicated upbringing, mentioned briefly in the piece. Her father beat her, she had a complicit, cold, mother and was raped as a young adult (not by her father but on a date with someone). So who knows what was going on within her own mind. Looking back through her work knowing what we know now about her life you can get a sense of where some of it came from.

    I came away from the piece feeling sorry for the daughter, not excusing Munro herself but feeling sorry for her too. Her second husband was a royal creep.

    Regarding Gaiman, I only listened to a CD of Neverland (I think that’s the title) during a roadtrip LB and I took. It was OK, it was more entertaining than I expected. LB is (was) a fan but not an over the top one.

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  8. Sherri said on January 14, 2025 at 2:38 pm

    I’ve tried a couple of times to read American Gods, but couldn’t get into it. The only Gaiman I’ve read is Good Omens, which he co-wrote with Terry Pratchett, and which I liked.

    I read elsewhere that Gaiman was raised by a pair of high-ranking Scientologists in L. Ron Hubbard’s inner circle, not that that excuses anything, but it would screw you up.

    The Internet may have expanded the ability to exploit fans in this way, but groupies go back a long way. They just used to be limited mostly to rock stars and sports.

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  9. alex said on January 14, 2025 at 4:11 pm

    I remember many of us here being perplexed at the massive wailing crowds when Michael Jackson got his just deserts OD’d. I couldn’t imagine being so bereft over his passing even if he’d been a perfect saint in life. But there’s fandom for ya.

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  10. Jeff Borden said on January 14, 2025 at 4:40 pm

    Off topic:
    We truly are a confederacy of dunces with the QOP in charge. The geniuses misspelled military as miltary on their visual aids today for the hearings on the utterly unqualified alcoholic adulterer and christian nationalist Pete Hegseth. He’s a fucking mess and he’ll soon be running the DOD.

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  11. Julie Robinson said on January 14, 2025 at 5:10 pm

    Fort Wayne’s Don Willis has died, much to my surprise since I thought it had already happened. Remember when he thought he could buy himself a mayor just like he bought a Philharmonic board seat? And then declared bankruptcy, having to sell his Forest Park Blvd home, complete with ridiculous lion statues?

    https://www.legacy.com/us/obituaries/fortwayne/name/donald-willis-obituary?id=57255890

    The urgent care center we were at last week had a playlist with every other song by MJ. By hour three, it was getting really old.

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  12. Icarus said on January 14, 2025 at 5:28 pm

    Suzanne @5: Have you ever dressed up as your favorite superhero for Halloween? Cosplay lets you do that whenever you want.

    It boosts self-esteem and confidence while also providing a safe place (theoretically) to promote creativity. It’s also cheaper than therapy.

    Cosplay wasn’t a thing during my formative years but I did reuse a Halloween costume once during the Bay to Breakers “race” in San Francisco.

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  13. nancy said on January 14, 2025 at 5:55 pm

    Julie, who was Don Willis promoting to be mayor? I remember his Forest Park Boulevard renovation fiasco, although it was after my time.

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  14. Suzanne said on January 14, 2025 at 5:56 pm

    Icarus, no, I can honestly say I have never dressed up as my favorite superhero, even when I was much younger, for Halloween or anything else. I had to dress up as Ronald McDonald (face paint, wig, all of it) for some sort of recruitment skit in college and I found it rather unsettling to be talking to people who I knew had no clue what I really looked like.

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  15. Sherri said on January 14, 2025 at 6:00 pm

    Neil Gaiman has responded, breaking a several months silence since the stories first started appearing. It’s the usual worthless response: I’m not a perfect person, I was careless with other people’s feelings, everything was consensual, there was no abuse. The most ridiculous statement might be that he’s “always tried to be a private person.” This is a person who’s gone to conventions and gone on tours all over the world, and has been prolific and interactive with fans on many social media sites.

    https://journal.neilgaiman.com/2025/01/breaking-silence.html

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  16. alex said on January 14, 2025 at 6:18 pm

    Nancy, that was Matt Kelty. Remember? The limp-wristed moral crusader (and screwy architect who bought the Snyderman house before it burned to the ground) who claimed that the $100K+ that he spent on his campaign was his own when it had come from Willis. He’s the reason the Republicans drafted Tom Henry to run against him as a Democrat; Kelty won the GOP primary in a fluke and was unopposed in the general election. And it wasn’t the first race with Republicans for Henry signs all over town. Nutters started winning every GOP mayoral primary after that one.

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  17. Andrea said on January 14, 2025 at 6:25 pm

    FWIW, I don’t think it is useful to try to separate art from artists, especially if those artists are still living. We do have a relationship, however tenuous, when I exchange money to access your movie, book, music, whatever. You artist are not entitled to my money, and I consumer am not entitled to your art. I don’t have to have any more valid reason to reject your art than that, and I certainly can say that I don’t want to support you or contribute to your platform with my limited funds if I think you are an abusive person who uses your power to hurt people. I can direct my limited funds to someone else’s art and hope that they are not the same. How many artists are there? No shortage of voices and perspectives we can lift up, I am sure. Passing over a Neil Gaiman gives an opportunity to shine a light on someone else.

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  18. Brandon said on January 14, 2025 at 9:48 pm

    Michael Jackson’s Legacy 15 Years Later.”

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  19. Sherri said on January 14, 2025 at 10:37 pm

    Things I wish I understood:

    Why the Trumpers want to destroy the military.

    Why someone like Pete Hegseth can claim he’s redeemed by his faith in Jesus Christ, while still drinking and assaulting women. Yet, a drag queen evidently can’t be redeemed by faith in Jesus Christ, in Pete Hegseth’s Christianity. Nor a trans person. Nor mouthy women. Grace only for the select, I guess.

    What’s the “masculine energy” that Mark Zuckerberg thinks has been missing from corporate America? Did women suddenly become CEOs in a massive wave that I hadn’t noticed?I particularly didn’t understand that tech was somehow lacking in masculine energy.

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  20. Mark P said on January 14, 2025 at 11:50 pm

    Mark Zuckerberg was surely referring to himself, and give him credit, he is right about that.

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  21. alex said on January 15, 2025 at 6:34 am

    Mark P for the win.

    Not only has Zuck gotten rid of his namby-pamby fact-checking apparatus on Facebook, but it also looks like he’s no longer filtering out clickbait that delivers you directly into the lair of scammers.

    I’m really torn about trying to tear myself away from media. To me it seems like anyone who would do that is the proverbial ostrich with its head in the sand. And yet I feel like I’m being underserved by traditional media, so I sign up for substacks and Bluesky and I’m overwhelmed with the deluge, the content is nothing if not dispiriting anyway, and I ignore most of it and still go on reading my empty newspapers.

    I’m fearful of the total disengagement that others seem to be embracing and what will happen if liberals give up and check out en masse.

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  22. JodiP said on January 15, 2025 at 9:41 am

    A few days ago we talked about the movie Six Triple Eight and it’s production values. Here is a great podcast episode about Charity Adams Early by The History Chicks:
    https://pca.st/episode/42ceb24c-e9a0-41f5-9bc0-8aca5dbdc9ac

    Alex, I am where you are. I have a lot of emotional stuff with the divorce and moving from my beloved home that I am not reading or listening to news. I didn’t even listen to my go to Marketplace podcasts this morning.

    On a much happier note, I found a new place to live! Well, assuming I pass the background and credit checks. I won’t bore you with all the details–I am calling it my unicorn home. It was the first one I looked at and applied immediately.

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  23. nancy said on January 15, 2025 at 9:46 am

    Alex, I meant to respond earlier: Oh yeah, Matt Kelty. You could look back on that chapter in FW history as an early augury of what would come to pass in other localities, state parties, and eventually the nation as a whole.

    I wonder what he’s up to these days.* In the fullness of time, I’ve come to see these local-race fiascos as entertaining, the same way small-market TV news is more likely to have flubs that viewers can be amused by. The stakes are usually fairly low.

    *Just looked at his LinkedIn: “Catholic father, architect, business owner, and entrepreneur.
    Unrelenting traditionalist, idealist, and patriot.” Ohhh-kay.

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  24. susan said on January 15, 2025 at 11:20 am

    Alex, yeah, when Jen Rubin resigned from WaPo and immediately announced her co-founding “Contrarian” Substack, I thought good for her! And cool, a group of “diverse” writers organizing to counteract the coming authoritarian regime. So, of course, I signed up for that. Within a day, I started getting “Contrarian” substack pieces. That turned to two or three a day. Arggghhhh! NO! I also realized, there were NO true liberal/progressive voices in that bunch of “they’re in the club that you are not in” people. Nothing new there. How about inviting in some of the old school progressive bloggers who have been doing this shit for TWENTY YEARS?

    Same old shit. I don’t need more of that noise, especially at that high decibel. It looked like it would only get worse. Signed up on Monday, unsubscribed two days later.

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  25. Jeff Borden said on January 15, 2025 at 1:41 pm

    We don’t need to stick our heads in the sand. But we also don’t need to immerse ourselves in the minutiae of this grotesquery. The entire nation will suffer –the poorest of the MAGAts will fare the worst– and our standing in the world will tumble into the basement, but this is what we deserve. A nation that chooses to elect an ignorant narcissist who’s also a felon, a rapist, a traitor, a grifter and a thief should be punished. I’ll remain informed and I’ll take my pleasures where I can when Lumpy’s dumb ideas singe his stupid worshippers, but my days of reading tons of political coverage are over.

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  26. Mark P said on January 15, 2025 at 2:32 pm

    MAGAts can’t stop inserting their ignorant, angry, hateful rhetoric into any conversation about any topic. I saw a video on FB that showed a large military transport landing, and MAGAts immediately started commenting about dementia Joe and how terrible he is and how much better things will be under the orange felon. I simply replied, “get back to us in a year.” He doubled down, and I repeated, “get back to us in a year.” These people are genuinely mentally disturbed. The inmates are literally running the asylum.

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  27. Jeff Borden said on January 15, 2025 at 2:43 pm

    Exactly, Mark P. Expecting logic from a MAGAt is like expecting a cat to play the piano. They’re so far up tRump’s anus they’re blind. Let us hope every tRump voter gets exactly what they deserve and that they get it good and hard.

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  28. Dexter Friend said on January 15, 2025 at 2:51 pm

    Stage One ceasefire is set. This will take time. It ain’t no armistice.
    I remember the 1967 war and when that calmed, I thought peace was there.
    58 years later, constant war or threats of war.
    I am not confident this is the real deal.
    I am not from Missouri but they must show me. Talk is cheap.

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  29. Dave said on January 15, 2025 at 3:30 pm

    Dexter, I’ve long thought and still think that those folks hate each other in ways and to an intensity that most of us can’t imagine, there won’t be any permanent solution, let alone what the Six Days War ended in 1967. 46,500 dead in the Gaza Strip, that’s not going to be forgotten (figure from a report I just looked up as of eight hours ago).

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  30. Deborah said on January 15, 2025 at 6:11 pm

    Alex, when you said this Matt Kelty guy was an architect, of course I had to google him. Oh lord, spare us the mediocre crap coming out of his firm. Nothing to see there, believe me.

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  31. Julie Robinson said on January 15, 2025 at 6:53 pm

    At the time Kelty bought the Snyderman home, his office was an old house (on Spy Run just south of the bridge by Northside HS, for Fort Wayners). It was kind of a crummy old house, and instead of fixing it up nice, he put up vertical columns of 2x4s on the front exterior. He then painted it purple and turquoise, not colors that work well in that climate. Both colors and style clashed with the neighborhood, and the paint soon began to peel. I failed to find an image online, but trust me, it was godawful.

    How am I coping? To begin with, too much chocolate. I’m not burying my head in the sand, but I’m not going into the weeds either. No TV, no radio, many articles in the paper and online only scanned for headlines, not read in full. Looking to read stories about the helpers. I’ve also DNFed two books already this year as too depressing. Normally I would’ve stuck them out.

    So–open to book suggestions that aren’t romance or science fiction, and not too heavy. I will endorse a delightful series by Anthony Horowitz, beginning with The Word is Murder and continuing through five books so far. Intelligent and witty, not too grisly or violent. Also his Susan Ryeland series.

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  32. Jeff Gill said on January 15, 2025 at 7:59 pm

    I’m thinking about re-reading the Brother Cadfael series, set in Shropshire (mostly) during “The Anarchy” of the early 12th century. No reason, he lied.

    And Basset, my wife & I find a ridiculous amount of comfort from our annual doses of “All Creatures” on PBS. We’ve re-watched more of that than any show I can think of. (But I’m likely to go back & rewatch some “Deadwood” soon, for the same anarchic comparison.)

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  33. Deborah said on January 15, 2025 at 9:37 pm

    I’m still trying to slog through Proust, Remembrance of Things Past, also known as In Search of Lost Time. It’s good but tedious. Also, it’s very snarky which I’ve never read that about it which I find very surprising. I can only read a few pages a day.

    I purchased Miranda July’s All Fours but haven’t started it yet, I’ve read good things about it.

    I picked up Annie Proulx’s That Old Ace in the Hole from the little library in the park near us that someone surprisingly rebuilt. Some jerks lit the one we had on fire a few years ago, then some well meaning person tried to rebuild it but it wasn’t functional at all. It’s nice to have a new one that keeps books dry and is easy to access, we’ll see how long it lasts. Sad that people ambush those kind of things that keep people from finding books that might be interesting to them. We have a few books ready to leave in the new library now.

    We spent a few days in Abiquiu at the cabin since we have our car back and can drive the 50 miles out there. The early mornings have been quite cold after the woodburning stove has burned down, it’s been about 43º in the morning inside, while 16º outside. It takes a while to get things in the stove warm enough to boil water for coffee in the morning and meanwhile I wear quite a few layers and a wool cap waiting next to the stove. I’s going to be very cold early next week in the wee hours, I’m thinking I won’t want to be out at the cabin on those nights. It’s been such a mild winter so far, I’m not acclimated yet for bitter cold temps.

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  34. tajalli said on January 15, 2025 at 11:26 pm

    A Suitable Boy by Vikram Seth is ~1750 pages long, a completely engaging shaggy dog story. My problem is that I’ll be able to read a few hundred pages then have to return it since another patron has put a hold on it and then wait in the hold line until it becomes available again.

    So, in the meantime, I’d been listening to Alexander McCall Smith’s 44 Scotland Street series (free via Hoopla) and have now moved on to his Department of Sensitive Crimes (placed in Maalmo Sweden) – very soothing yet hilarious without being mean. I’d already read these.

    Annie Proulx’s Accordion Crimes follows an accordion from Italy to New Orleans and into the midwest as it changes hands over several centuries and through various groups of immigrants.

    Denison Avenue by Christina Wong is about the adventures of a recently widowed Chinese immigrant who lived her whole adult life in Toronto.

    Portrait of a Thief by Grace D Li is a great art heist novel.

    The Secret to Super Strength by Alison Bechdel, a graphic memoir of her relationship to exercise throughout her life, probably a bit more understandable if you read her Fun Home graphic novel first, but not necessary to its enjoyment

    Mecca by Susan Straight, a novel about the intertwined lives of a group of Hispanic Americans in southern California. Straight grew up in the area she placed the novel so the various canyons’ geography and the issues of the minority groups has a lot of depth.

    Wandering Stars by Tommy Orange is about urban indigenous people in Oakland.

    Obviously, I keep myself amused. All I’m doing is skimming the headlines while waiting for the other shoe to drop, being kind in the little, local ways I can to promote the spread of good ripples and maybe calm the waters a bit and not stress myself out by rehearsing anxiety producing thoughts – people actually gave themselves PTSD by watching the twin towers implosion videos repeatedly. Oh, and my, admittedly slow, death cleaning since I can’t control the coming governmental crisis but I can control the dust bunnies.

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  35. Dexter Friend said on January 15, 2025 at 11:41 pm

    Dave, General Barry McCaffrey , USA, ret., stated the Gaza death toll is at least 70,000, perhaps way more. He’s 82 now but gets paid for his well-connected reports on MSNBC.
    This Pam Bondi seems clueless, says she never heard about any votes Trump tried to wrangle in Georgia. Fer crissakes, there was a sample-based pop song made about it. Or , of course, she’s a pathetic Trump sycophant.
    And I still can’t get opening day admission tickets to The Deep State Museum that Kash Patel promised to make from The Hoover Building. Yeah, he’s going to make all agents, all employees, fan out into Motel 6 units and catch brown-skin people in the fields and ship ’em back to south of the border.

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  36. JodiP said on January 16, 2025 at 9:16 am

    I appreciate all the reading recommendations!

    I read A Mighty Red by Louise Erdrich. There is a tragedy at the center but it’s really about family, figuring oneself out and some environmental stuff just because.

    I also momentous news: I have found a beautiful apartment! It’s a lower level duplex, owner occupied in a neighborhood not too far from my current one. The owner is “family” as we gays say, and very nice. Lots of woodwork, huge kitchen and beautiful gardens.

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