Whiplash.

On Saturday, I got up early and headed for Eastern Market around 8 a.m., and that was a good idea — got a parking place and got my shopping done before the crowds descended. I took a counter seat at my usual breakfast place, the place already packed. As I was leaving, a party of three was waiting for a table. Working guys, two wearing shirts IDing them as employees of the packing plant around the corner. The third had on a T-shirt with this charming message: Marriages don’t fail. Wives fail.

“I think there’s a table open in the back,” I told them as I left, knowing it was dirty, knowing it was a two-top, but fuck all of them. I know people have different senses of humor, and maybe it was some sort of take-my-wife-please thing, but something about his face said no, he was a Victim of Family Court and That Bitch. So he’ll wear his little shirt around, it makes him feel like he’s stickin’ it to the (wo)man, and he’ll be virtually guaranteed that the next one he falls for will be cut from the same cloth.

I wanted to tell him, “Dude, it’s a loop. You need to break the cycle.” But I didn’t have that kind of time, so I just directed them through a crowded coney island to a dirty table, knowing they’ll have to make their way back when they see it’s too small. I wonder if the other two guys will blame the third guy.

Now I am become Bitch, part of the loop.

The men’s-rights guys are feeling their oats of late. You can hardly go on MR Twitter and not see the sneering at Emmanuel Macron and his old-ass wife, who is quite fetching but undeniably well past her childbearing years, which makes him a cuck or a eunuch or fag or whatever their term of art for such arrangements is.

And you’d get whiplash if you look too quickly at Mike Huckabee, tweeting his pride in his daughter Sarah, deputy White House press secretary:

Ha ha! Three preschoolers! Wait, what? How is that OK? I spent Kate’s preschool years being lectured endlessly about the need for every child to be raised by their parents, not some nanny or caregiver or what-have-you. Sure, it could be a spouse, but Sarah Huckabee Sanders isn’t married to some cuck, but a man every bit her equal, career-wise.

It’s hard to keep up, I’m telling you. But I know those kids will be lucky to see their mom two hours a day. I believe it was Rahm Emanuel who said that the only parent working in the White House who sees his or her kids is the one in the Oval.

I’m rereading “The Handmaid’s Tale,” as we started a Hulu subscription to watch the adaptation. Very well done, very specifically scary. I try not to get too paranoid these days, but face it, as the dug-in positions keep getting more dug in, it’s hard to be optimistic:

The talk-show host Rush Limbaugh was positively giddy, opening his monologue on Wednesday by praising Mr. Trump for what he called his “epic trolling” of liberals. “This is great,” Mr. Limbaugh declared. “Can we agree that Donald Trump is probably enjoying this more than anybody wants to admit or that anybody knows? So he fires Comey yesterday. Who’s he meet with today? He’s meeting with the Soviet, the Russian foreign minister, Sergey Lavrov! I mean, what an epic troll this is.”

Given the enthusiasm of the president’s apologists, it is likely that much of Mr. Trump’s base will similarly rally to him as it has in the past.

But perhaps most important, we saw once again how conservatism, with its belief in ordered liberty, is being eclipsed by something different: Loathing those who loathe the president. Rabid anti-anti-Trumpism.

I guess, when the president’s health fails because of his shitty diet, that will be another case of IOKIYAR. We won’t be helping children learn to eat better, either, because that was Michelle Obama’s idea, and anyway, parents should be teaching their children, like the Huckabee-Sanders co-prosperity sphere (with a bloodline strong in Southern-style obesity).

Speaking of whiplash.

I have a bunch of depressing links to post, but I’m not going to. It’s a beautiful Mothers Day, my daughter has promised to make me dinner later, and I’m going for a bike ride. And if you’re reading this Monday, happy anniversary to us. Twenty-four years, celebrated Saturday night with a restaurant meal that made this dress feel tighter than it looks by the last bite:

Good week, all.

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66 responses to “Whiplash.”

  1. Dave said on May 14, 2017 at 5:01 pm

    I had to search it to see what IOKIYAR is, after attempted failures to try and get it by myself.

    Surprise to me that you can go to some little college I’ve never heard of and get a degree in campaign media. He’s worked for some winners. Brownback? Yoho? And daddy-in-law.

    Those people don’t raise their kids.

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  2. Jerry said on May 14, 2017 at 5:11 pm

    Congratulations on the anniversary; and congratulations on the dress, it looks great.

    And a big thank you for the time and thought you put into the blog. It provides me with a different, if sometimes bewildering, view on the USA.

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  3. David C. said on May 14, 2017 at 5:16 pm

    In those circles, ordering the nanny around is raising your kids.

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  4. BethB from Indiana said on May 14, 2017 at 6:46 pm

    WOW, what a dress!

    I haven’t read anything, yet, just saw the pic of the two of you and had to comment.

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  5. Sherri said on May 14, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    Happy anniversary!

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  6. Dorothy said on May 14, 2017 at 7:10 pm

    You both look spectacular! Happy anniversary and here’s to 24+ more.

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  7. Deborah said on May 14, 2017 at 7:30 pm

    Happy anniversary to a great looking couple. Love that dress.

    I don’t know how Spicer, Sanders et all, sleep at night with all the lies they tell for their boss.

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  8. Diane said on May 14, 2017 at 7:42 pm

    Congratulations on the anniversary! Lovely picture, awesome dress.

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  9. Deborah said on May 14, 2017 at 10:08 pm

    I have this one thing rattling around in my head that I’ll just put out here. Does anyone else think it’s odd that Trump would publicly state that he asked Comey three times if he was being investigated by the FBI? I mean if you have nothing to hide why would you ask that even once? And to state it publicly that you asked is very odd to me. Desperately trying to prove you’re innocent when you know you have a lot of skeletons in the closet, it seems to me.

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  10. brian stouder said on May 14, 2017 at 10:16 pm

    Marvelous photo, indeed! Pam and I hit #24 on March 6.

    Deborah – indeed. The USS Donald really does seem to be scraping against the ice burg. When we see a high-level resignation or two (I’m thinking that Mnuchin guy has enough brains to know when to grab a lifeboat) then I’ll believe that we’re not far off from a President Pence

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  11. Peggy said on May 14, 2017 at 11:55 pm

    Great dress and Happy Anniversary! Brian – good point about Mnuchin. I’ll be watching that. I think he wants those tax cuts and deregulation pretty badly, which might cloud his judgment.

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  12. Peggy said on May 15, 2017 at 12:09 am

    Maybe Huckabee should read 100 days of real food, about avoiding all processed and refined food. Author was inspired by Michael Pollan’s “eat real food. Not too much. Mostly plants, and nothing your grandmother wouldn’t recognize as food.” Salty, fatty, sugary processed food is specifically designed to be addictive,

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  13. Peggy said on May 15, 2017 at 12:28 am

    Huh. The Macrons and the Trumps have exactly the same age difference. No big deal if it’s the man who is older, eeeww if the woman is older. Got it.

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  14. Peggy said on May 15, 2017 at 12:30 am

    Deborah- Yes! I wouldn’t ask that because I know I haven’t done anything the FBI would be interested in.

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  15. Sherri said on May 15, 2017 at 1:24 am

    My local state senate race: http://www.seattletimes.com/seattle-news/politics/taxes-vs-trump-east-side-contest-will-determine-power-in-olympia/

    I got a mailer the other day funded by Workiing Families, the Republican group, promoting Englund heavily as the person to save us from a state income tax.

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  16. LAMary said on May 15, 2017 at 1:46 am

    IOKIYAR and IACIYAD – The New York Times

    https://krugman.blogs.nytimes.com/2007/10/11/iokiyar-and…/comment-page-1/

    IACIYAD is a sort of double-entendre: it could mean that the same action that draws no punishment if you’re a Republican is a crime if a Democrat does it — in fact, the informant who provoked the charges against Siegelman also implicated Republicans, but they were never investigated.

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  17. Lisa said on May 15, 2017 at 5:21 am

    You look beautiful!! Gorgeous dress and Happy Anniversary!

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  18. Joe Kobiela said on May 15, 2017 at 7:04 am

    I prefer kmagyoyo,
    Nice dress.
    Pilot Joe

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  19. Icarus said on May 15, 2017 at 7:34 am

    Deborah: I noticed that too and chalked it up as a message to his base. They would t think that was an odd thing to put in a memo about firing someone. They will see that and just focus on the asked three times, you know like Jesus said someone would deny him three times before a cock crowed.

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  20. coozledad said on May 15, 2017 at 7:52 am

    Trump sure has a bunch of different paramilitaries. The only thing they have in common is “all I done got in this life is white and the TV is all interracial.”

    But it’s going to be hard to have even a Kapp putsch with a bunch of obese smack addicts. They’ll Balkanize and start killing each other, same way they shotgun holes in their trailers and their families of a Saturday night.

    I wonder if Richard Spencer will be able to keep up the Nazi cosplay after they catch him trolling for sex in some Woodbridge shitter.

    He’ll still be white, after all.

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  21. coozledad said on May 15, 2017 at 8:10 am

    Freylinghuysen is like the cowards who stripped the funding for predominantly black school districts this weekend in NC.

    https://twitter.com/SarahBurris/status/864085375194734594

    They’re going to have to purge voter rolls to stay in office, and they will.

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  22. Colleen said on May 15, 2017 at 9:12 am

    Faaabulous dress. Happy anniversary. 24 years is nothing to sneeze at.

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  23. jcburns said on May 15, 2017 at 9:21 am

    Happy Anniversary, Alan and Nance. What a cool couple…we’re lucky to know you.

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  24. Judybusy said on May 15, 2017 at 9:29 am

    Fabu dress–happy anniversary!

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  25. ROGirl said on May 15, 2017 at 9:57 am

    Lovely frock.

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  26. Julie Robinson said on May 15, 2017 at 10:00 am

    Wowza what a dress! Congratulations on both fitting into it and on your anniversary.

    The whole weekend was spent paying zero attention to the news. Matt’s concert Friday night was fabulous and his solos went well. Then Sunday morning the kids had cooked up a surprise for Mother’s Day–he sang You Raise Me Up for the offertory at church and had most of the women sobbing. His voice is pure and clear and always true to the pitch, and I am one tough customer when it comes to that.

    We ate together, hung out together, sat on the lanai and watched the sun set. The only fly in the ointment is that our pool is still colder than my arthritic joints like. So all I know of Washington is from watching about half of Saturday Night Live until I dozed off into a Mother’s Day nap.

    When I get back I will have a lot going on and will reengage, but right now I’m enjoying the break.

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  27. brian stouder said on May 15, 2017 at 10:04 am

    Julie – sounds like a superb weekend, indeed!

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  28. 4dbirds said on May 15, 2017 at 10:04 am

    Va Va Voom you look great!

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  29. Connie said on May 15, 2017 at 10:23 am

    Nice dress, nice couple. As we grow older, one of our goals has become to not have to get dressed up. We would never ever choose to get dressed up for dinner like your picture. My husband is two sizes smaller than he was during his working days and I am not sure he still owns a sport coat that fits. We have a big wedding this fall in Michigan’s most upscale wedding location, perhaps we will have to go shopping.

    A wedding location that is nowhere near anyone’s home, including the bride. We all have to do two hotel nights or a three hour drive to our free relative homes in Cadillac and Leelanau. I expected to have a wedding weekend in Cadillac, and I am somewhat aggravated to have to pay fall color season prices at a hotel in Charlevoix.

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  30. Peter said on May 15, 2017 at 10:28 am

    “Can we agree that Donald Trump is probably enjoying this more than anybody wants to admit or that anybody knows?”

    I can totally believe that. Just look at the guy. Nothing but shits and giggles, just counting down the hours until he gets a well done steak and can watch Sean Hannity for six hours straight. Oh yeah, living the dream.

    Congratulations on 24 years in the books.

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  31. Jeff (the mild-mannered one) said on May 15, 2017 at 10:42 am

    Hat tip to the both of ya’s; I see why you and Laura Lippman get along so well . . . #husbandsseparatedatbirth

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  32. Jolene said on May 15, 2017 at 10:48 am

    That dress really is the best. A simple, fresh print made in a sexy style and fit. Can’t beat it. Great picture of both of you.

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  33. Julie Robinson said on May 15, 2017 at 10:54 am

    Connie, I hear you. I just bought a dress for a couple of weddings because it’s been years since I had a new one. One is in town, one is at a resort. Over Memorial Day weekend. The rates are staggering. And it’s not even a wedding, just a reception. The wedding will be earlier in the week at the courthouse. They didn’t want to pay for an officiant. Can a get a hrrumph from the room?

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  34. Deborah said on May 15, 2017 at 11:03 am

    I’m with you on the dressing up Connie. When we went to the Harvard dinner I had to wear yoga pants and my Doc Martens because since my surgery I can’t wear anything with a waistband yet and I’m still in the big clunky shoe stage. I didn’t care though, lots of women were in cocktail dresses and men in suits and ties, who cares. My husband wore jeans and a sport coat. I wore a long jacket over my casuals.

    This is too long of story to go into here, but we’ve been helping my husband’s uncle a lot lately, he’s been spending time at his Chicago condo and we’re helping him get a more appropriate house to live in. He’s in the early middle stage of Alzheimer’s now and stairs etc can be problematic for him. We found a house and looked at it this weekend in the town he lives in 2 hours north of Chicago. It turns out that Rick Nielsen of the group Cheap Trick will be his next door neighbor if this all goes through. His third wife and her adult children are pissed about this, they don’t want him spending any money so it will all go to them when he’s gone. It’s really sad. Money can’t buy happiness, for sure.

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  35. Bitter Scribe said on May 15, 2017 at 11:05 am

    …conservatism, with its belief in ordered liberty, is being eclipsed by something different: Loathing those who loathe the president. Rabid anti-anti-Trumpism.

    That isn’t new. Conservatives who champion loathsome characters always try to turn the subject to the characters’ critics. There’s a reason William Fuckhead Buckley called his Joe McCarthy apologia “McCarthy and His Enemies.”

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  36. Deborah said on May 15, 2017 at 11:11 am

    This is quite a reveal http://talkingpointsmemo.com/livewire/morning-joe-conway-used-to-say-she-needed-shower-after-defending-trump

    I can’t imagine how these people do what they do, defending Trump. I guess some people will do anything for power and money, even if they have to crawl in the mud.

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  37. Sherri said on May 15, 2017 at 11:14 am

    I’m usually a jeans and t-shirt person, and I have to buy a dress for the awards banquet I’m attending at the end of June. (Which is of course real reason I’m on this food plan with trainer!) I’m planning on throwing myself on the mercies of a personal shopper at Nordstrom.

    Hubby, no matter what he eats, no matter whether he exercises, is only one size bigger than when I met him over 30 years ago, damn his genetics, so the tux he bought some 10 years ago for his choir still fits.

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  38. Peter said on May 15, 2017 at 11:39 am

    Deborah, you know what they say – the only thing money can’t buy is poverty.

    I thought about last week’s high class sacking of Mr. Comey, and the comparison to Harry Truman dumping MacArthur. To cut to the chase, it was said that Truman could have learned from FDR, whose go to move would have made MacArthur an ambassador or put him on a commission to get him out of the way and make it look like a promotion. Compare that to having the security guard drop the memo off at the reception desk. Classy!

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  39. Judybusy said on May 15, 2017 at 11:49 am

    And, Comey finding out he was fired during a recruitment event when there was a news flash behind him on the TV!

    I am in the minority here–maybe because I’m a bit younger at 51. I love getting dressed up. I have a job where there are court appearances, so looking professional is part of the deal. Both my wife and I like getting on some nice threads when we go out to events or dinner–unless it’s really casual. I think part of why I like it so much because we didn’t have a lot of money growing up, so getting nice clothes was a treat. I buy good stuff, and keep it for years. The stuff I’m wearing today is from at least 2003.

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  40. Jeff (the mild-mannered one) said on May 15, 2017 at 12:01 pm

    I’m okay with occasional nicer garb (55, full disclosure) but if ties were to completely vanish from the everyday fashion lexicon, I’d be content. Between court and funerals and the occasional formal ceremony, I still wear them too often, considering I hardly ever do for church anymore.

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  41. ROGirl said on May 15, 2017 at 12:25 pm

    Several years ago I quit a job rather than work for a bullying, ego driven man who knew nothing about the job he was hired to do. I walked away with my dignity intact and didn’t succumb to his fear mongering and bluster. He got canned a few months later, the fat fuck.

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  42. Jeff Borden said on May 15, 2017 at 12:41 pm

    You and Alan look better than ever. You’re among the lucky folk who seem to get better looking as they age. . .

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  43. Scout said on May 15, 2017 at 1:20 pm

    As Tom and Lorenzo would say about that dress with you in it: werk it, girl.

    Possibly because I have curated my Twitter feed to my exact specs in order to feel better about this whole nasty cabal of idiots and asslickers, the purported ‘insiders’ report is that Dolt 45 screams at people all day because he’s pissed at all the ‘fake news’ and then binges on junk food and cable news all evening. They make it sound like he HATES the whole thing and is delaminating exponentially. Limbaugh saying the opposite makes me believe my Twit feed even more because we all know what a liar that jerk is.

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  44. Kirk said on May 15, 2017 at 2:55 pm

    I don’t mind getting at least semi-dressed up when we’re going out for some fine dining. Usually a jacket and decent pants get the job done, sometimes even one of my many mostly idle ties. Must be the old fart in me, but I get slightly offended when we go to what is known as the best place in town (excellent food, service and ambience, extraordinary wine list, with numerous special touches) and see people in shorts and flip-flops. You look like a bum, pal. Go to McDonald’s and get some shitburgers. Restaurants that make the effort to be classy and put out great food deserve some respect.

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  45. Sherri said on May 15, 2017 at 3:04 pm

    I’d wear a tie regularly if it meant never putting on heels ever again.

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  46. Deborah said on May 15, 2017 at 3:16 pm

    My dad used to get incensed at people who would show up at “nice” restaurants in Miami with shorts and flip flops. We didn’t have very much money when I was growing up, we never went out to eat. But after my sister and I were out of college and married off, my dad remarried and he and his wife would go out to eat from time to time. It was a real treat for them, he wanted it to feel special and people showing up super casual pissed him off royally.

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  47. Julie Robinson said on May 15, 2017 at 3:27 pm

    Heels are a distant memory now as it’s been 20 years since plantar fasciitis started ruling my world. Dressy Birkenstock sandals is the best I can/will do. That’s my reality; I’m used to it now, and if anyone wants to sneer at my footwear, well, I would wish a little PF episode on them.

    Hubby still has to wear full suit and tie for work, and it’s getting harder to find variety in fabric choices for suits. Everything is solid colors and boring. At least I can have fun with the shirt and tie choices.

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  48. Jeff Borden said on May 15, 2017 at 3:39 pm

    I’m still enough of an old fart to be offended by men wearing hats in a restaurant. . .a trait I share with Tony Soprano. There was an episode of “The Sopranos” when he was dining at Artie’s restaurant and spotted a younger man with a baseball cap. He was not very subtle about reminding the guy he was in a fine restaurant and to act like it. Tony was an immoral thug, but in this case, I was rooting for him.

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  49. nancy said on May 15, 2017 at 3:44 pm

    I don’t mind getting dressed up. Even when I’m working at home, the difference between sitting around in sweaty workout clothes and my post-shower, decently dressed, mascara-and-lip gloss mind is noticeable. I figure, if the doorbell rings, would I be embarrassed to open it? That’s my threshold.

    In restaurants, I can go either way, but I do insist: If the place has a dress code, follow it. We went to the London Chop House, one of the D’s old-school places, very Don Draper with the bourbon and low lighting and jazz trio. I don’t mind if men aren’t wearing ties, but I don’t want to see fucking Red Wings jerseys, either. There are plenty of places to fly that flag.

    I’ve never worn a necktie on a regular basis, but whenever people complain about clothing being uncomfortable, the first question to ask is, does it fit? Fix that first and then talk to me about how uncomfortable you are. I’m now at mid-to-low heels, and even those are 60-minute deals; I’ll soon be doing the aging-actress thing of long hemlines covering Chuck Taylors, or Lauren Hutton’s trick of wearing mostly slacks with flats or flat boots or anything other than heels.

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  50. Deborah said on May 15, 2017 at 3:55 pm

    My husband never wears ties, well almost never, very, very rarely. He is a sharp dresser, has impeccable taste in suits, gets them very well tailored, has beautiful shirts which he wears buttoned up all the way, but then he doesn’t wear a tie with them. If he does have to wear a tie, it’s a simple black one. I think he can get away with this because he’s a designer. At least he doesn’t go in for the splashy scarves that some designer types go in for, thank goodness. I had nice clothes when I worked, but do not see the need to spend lots of money on clothes now, I lost interest in keeping up with fashion. I like reading T&L from time to time but most of the clothes celebrities wear has never interested me. My favorite designers are more artful and less flashy, like Issey Miyake, Yohji Yamamoto, Jil Sander, Rei kawakubo, those kinds of clothes do it for me. My husband likes Armani suits, classic, well tailored, simple.

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  51. Heather said on May 15, 2017 at 3:56 pm

    I echo what everyone else has said: you guys look great, and congrats!

    I love to dress up too, but since I use my bicycle for transportation a lot, that sometimes means I have to make some concessions. Not that many though–I’m a whiz at cycling in heels.

    Shorts and flip-flops at dinner get a hard NO from me, unless it’s a super-casual and/or family-friendly place. And Jeff B., I’m with you on the hats.

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  52. john (not mccain) said on May 15, 2017 at 4:02 pm

    One of the top 3 restaurants in Buffalo is right across the street from a fire station. On a Friday night you’ll find firemen at the bar still in the stuff they wear when they’re waiting for a fire, mixed with people dressed to the 9s. It’s a very friendly place, lots of laughter. I love that atmosphere.

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  53. Jakash said on May 15, 2017 at 4:06 pm

    The downside of the casualization of America is that, if you want to have a dressy night at a nice place and have everybody else looking spiffy, as well, you may indeed be pissed about somebody in a Red Wings jersey and Tigers cap. (Would that clash?) The upside is, I don’t think there are many folks sneering at your dressy Birkenstocks, Julie… I suppose this is easy for me to say, but I can never understand why women torture themselves in killer heels. Unless I was about 4 foot 8, I can’t imagine wearing them. I’m clearly no Tom or Lorenzo, but when I see someone in them, I never think “Wow, awesome!” I think “Why is she putting herself through that?”

    “…beautiful shirts which he wears buttoned up all the way…” I never understood the point of buttoning the top button without a tie, but who am I to judge? Me or the Pope? ; )

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  54. adrianne said on May 15, 2017 at 4:06 pm

    Va va voom, Nance! You and Alan are lookin’ good.

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  55. Deborah said on May 15, 2017 at 4:11 pm

    Also, I agree with Steven Job, Mark Zuckerburg (spelling?) and others about a uniform, wearing the same outfit type day after day. I know a lot of people think it’s not creative but if you find a look for yourself that works for multiple reasons, go with it. I like wearing all one color, black or dark blue. I think it makes for a cohesive look, gives your body edges, so slims you. For a while I was wearing black in the winter and white or off white in the spring/summer (at work) but then I realized that the white/off white profile made me look pudgier than I was, so I switched to the dark blue. I usually wear the same color from head to toe because it draws your eye vertically instead of horizontally. I wear dark blue turtleneck shirts with dark blue jeans and dark blue boots, I also have a dark blue vest and jacket when I’m decked out in that color. I do add a splash of color with a scarf or something like that. It works for me and I don’t have to give it much thought which is helpful when things get hectic.

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  56. nancy said on May 15, 2017 at 4:29 pm

    I like the look of a man in a suit without a tie — collar buttoned, too, although I think of Dustin Hoffman in “Rain Man” sometimes when i see that. The tie isn’t essential; Alan only wears them to work when he has to lunch with some auto-industry people.

    And I’m pretty uniform, too, most days. Jeans and a white or black T-shirt in summer; sweater in winter. I indulge my yen for color with scarves.

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  57. Andrea said on May 15, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    Congratulations on the anniversary. You both look great, and more importantly, like you are happy to be with each other!

    Our 24th anniversary is later this year, although we no longer celebrate it. Somehow, in the aftermath of infidelity, being reminded of who I was on that day, and the hopeful innocent promises I made then, it’s just too painful. We had our 20th a year or two after I discovered the affair; I had a total breakdown in a Hallmark store while shopping for cards. There just isn’t a 20th anniversary card that quite expresses the “so glad you aren’t fucking the neighbor anymore” sentiment. Since then I have asked that we not do anything special to mark the day, as it just tends to send me into a tailspin.

    Don’t mean to bring anyone down — we are generally in a good place.

    UGH.

    Change of topic. I read this blog entry and thought of the NN community, as poverty, mental health, and Appalachia are regular subjects here: https://www.thisappalachialife.com/single-post/2017/05/10/My-Mother-Wasnt-Trash

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  58. brian stouder said on May 15, 2017 at 4:55 pm

    Andrea – it sounds like you’re in a good place now, and that’s really all any of us can aspire to.

    There is a critical shifting-of-gears that (ideally) takes place in a person’s 20’s – wherein one goes from scatter-shot (chase all the romantic possibilities you can, with anyone possible, always) to genuinely dedicated (all your attention goes to this one person, who is your best friend, and closest other human being).

    I had my share of (self-inflicted) trouble of that sort, more than a quarter century ago

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  59. Scout said on May 15, 2017 at 6:24 pm

    Wow. Just … wow. http://talkingpointsmemo.com/livewire/report-trump-revealed-classified-information-russian-officials-white-house

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  60. David C. said on May 15, 2017 at 6:50 pm

    I guess the Russians didn’t have to bother to bug the oval office. They can just call the Donald and he’ll tell them whateverthefuck they want to know.

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  61. Sherri said on May 15, 2017 at 7:51 pm

    Thanks, Mitch McConnell.

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  62. Joe K said on May 15, 2017 at 8:42 pm

    Man walks into fancy club without a tie, waiter says excuse me sir but we have a dress code you need a tie, man goes out to his car grabs jumper cable and ties a perfect Windsor knot and returns to the club, waiter says ok sir your welcome to come in, but don’t try to start anything.
    Pilot Joe

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  63. basset said on May 15, 2017 at 8:49 pm

    Badump-bump. Try the veal, we’re here till Friday.

    I’d tell a chemistry joke, but I know I wouldn’t get a reaction.

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  64. Suzanne said on May 15, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    I don’t have any jokes, but wowza! This Trump stuff is heating up to firestorm level.
    Of course, Fox News’ top story is something about Hillary Clinton…

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  65. Deborah said on May 15, 2017 at 9:15 pm

    Wow, Trump is so far in over his head. He doesn’t know what he doesn’t know. Every day I’m astounded by what comes out. It’s been just over 100 days, can you imagine what will have accumulated after a year?

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  66. Rana said on May 15, 2017 at 9:17 pm

    Happy anniversary! You both look great!

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