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The whore’s look.

Any­one still have their dad’s old copies of the Travis McGee nov­els lying around? If so, you should take down “Night­mare in Pink” and give it another read. There’s a long pas­sage about two-thirds in, where Travis tries to pen­e­trate a rich man’s perime­ter by book­ing a pros­ti­tute from the same high-end ser­vice the man uses. There’s an expla­na­tion of how the ser­vice works, how the cus­tomers are pro­tected and the girls shielded from the police that I think a cer­tain for­mer U.S. gov­er­nor would rec­og­nize. It mas­quer­ades as a show­biz tal­ent agency, of course. Travis asks about the rates, and the madam/booker tells him:

“Most are at two hun­dred and two-fifty. We have sev­eral at three hun­dred, a few at four hun­dred, and two at five hun­dred. But it varies, accord­ing to the size and qual­ity of our list at any given time. There have been some at a thou­sand, but not recently.”

“What makes it worth five hun­dred, Mrs. Smith?”

Her expres­sion told me she thought it a vul­gar ques­tion. “Those are girls who are very well-known due to tele­vi­sion work usu­ally. Some accounts pre­fer to be seen with girls who will be rec­og­nized in pub­lic. Gen­er­ally they don’t stay on our list long.” Her smile was quite sud­denly and sur­pris­ingly vicious. “They either go up, or they go down.”

Keep in mind this book was writ­ten in 1964. Fac­tor in infla­tion, and I’d say we’re talk­ing Spitzer’s girls. Later, Travis meets the one he chose, Rossa, in a cock­tail lounge. She’s beau­ti­ful, smart, per­fectly groomed:

She had no whore look or whore man­ner that I could detect. But there was a curi­ous inad­e­quacy about our easy con­ver­sa­tion. We both knew there was an enve­lope of money in one of my pock­ets, and it would end up in her purse. This was a sit­u­a­tion I had never been in before. It took me a long time to ana­lyze it. Finally I real­ized that we could gen­er­ate no par­tic­u­lar ten­sion between us because the result was pre­or­dained. She was a stately and beau­ti­ful girl, fash­ion­able and bright, with shin­ing eyes and a good mouth. But there was no spice of pur­suit. A doe which runs up and stares down the gun bar­rel is not a sport­ing ven­ture.

…At one point I glanced up quickly and sur­prised a dif­fer­ent expres­sion in her eyes — an absolute cold­ness, a bleak and total indif­fer­ence which was gone the instant I saw it. And that, I thought, was the whore’s look and the whore’s secret, that mon­u­men­tal uncon­cern which insu­lated her.

I grow a lit­tle weary of the latter-day fem­i­nist upgrade from pros­ti­tute to “sex worker.” I guess, if you were the kind of girl raised in a house where your mom’s boyfriend ran his grubby hands all over you and you fig­ure out a way to make it work for you, that’s a lemonade-from-lemons deal, but let’s not dress it up too much in women’s-studies b.s., OK? Ash­ley Alexan­dra “I am not a mon­ster” Dupré may not be the most odi­ous player in this whole affair, but she’s hardly an inno­cent, either.

I found this kind of pathetic:

Her MySpace biog­ra­phy says she started singing pro­fes­sion­ally after a musi­cian she was liv­ing with heard her singing the Aretha Franklin hit “Respect” in the shower and burst into the bath­room with his lead gui­tarist.

And then what? They signed her with Inter­scope, or they had a three-way? She should have insisted on get­ting her prop­ers when he got home, instead.

Every so often I open a news­pa­per and read a long, search­ing, new journalism-wannabe pro­file of a sex worker, usu­ally a strip­per. (They’re eas­ier to find than actual pros­ti­tutes.) It’s almost always com­pli­men­tary and respect­ful, and always lib­er­ally illus­trated, because if there’s one place you don’t have to ask a pho­tog­ra­pher to do a thor­ough job, it’s a strip club. When I was a very young reporter, a pho­tog approached me with the pic­tures he’d been tak­ing at a down-at-the-heels club on High Street called the Gar­den Bur­lesque. He wanted me to write the story, and talked about the gems he’d found there — this girl was in col­lege, and this one was an entre­pre­neur, and they were all won­der­ful, won­der­ful peo­ple who were happy to tell their sto­ries. So I agreed to go with him one day and meet every­one.

The col­lege stu­dent was a slack-jawed moron who said she was think­ing about maybe enrolling at a local sec­re­tar­ial school. Most of the rest were just garden-variety skanks lucky to have reached 25 with a full set of teeth. I for­get what the entre­pre­neur was plan­ning, but the stand­out of the group was a girl who was six months preg­nant, and roy­ally pissed that she’d recently been banned from the stage and assigned to ticket-taking instead. “I caint make no tips now,” she whined. (“What was she danc­ing to?” our witty colum­nist asked when I told him about it, “the ‘Baby Ele­phant Walk’?”) It was as grubby a bunch as you’d expect to find in that era, the last years before the new-style high-end clubs started to open, the ones where you’d find the Ash­ley Alexan­dra Duprés and their gym-toned sis­ters. Well, every­body was mov­ing up in the world, then. It was the ’80s.

I feel worse for Ash­ley than I do for Spitzer. The whore always gets the worst of it, and I sus­pect this will be no dif­fer­ent. She’s headed down the trail blazed by Jes­sica Hahn and Donna Rice, and if we still know her name in three weeks it’ll be because Howard Stern made her a co-host and Hugh Hefner wrote her a big check. But like Travis McGee’s date, she has “that mon­u­men­tal uncon­cern” at heart. It’s the whore’s look, and mon­ster or not, it’s hers, just the same.

56 responses to
“The whore’s look.”

  1. Connie said on March 13th, 2008 at 8:54 am

    Lileks news! Front page col­umn! Please Nancy, be snarky for me.

  2. Peter said on March 13th, 2008 at 8:59 am

    My money’s on Trump either sign­ing up Eliot or his lady – or both. They could be quite the pitch­per­sons for his prod­uct.

  3. Kirk said on March 13th, 2008 at 9:11 am

    Imported from end of pre­vi­ous thread:

    What restau­rant, Con­nie? Not that I’m an expert on the place, but we really liked Saugatuck and would go back. Not based on toi­let ameni­ties, of course.

    And I agree. The dog looks bitchin’.

  4. Randy said on March 13th, 2008 at 9:41 am

    Wow Nancy, you are hit­ting them out of the park the last few weeks. If I can come up with an even more trite sport­ing anal­ogy I will pass it along. Thanks for the great read, as usual.

  5. brian stouder said on March 13th, 2008 at 9:41 am

    Great post. (And indeed, I’m not a Wire guy, but I nonethe­less enjoyed your post on the final episode very much). Leav­ing aside any ‘lat­ter day fem­i­nism’ euphemisms, I was struck by the irony of this excerpt -

    At one point I glanced up quickly and sur­prised a dif­fer­ent expres­sion in her eyes — an absolute cold­ness, a bleak and total indif­fer­ence which was gone the instant I saw it. And that, I thought, was the whore’s look and the whore’s secret, that mon­u­men­tal uncon­cern which insu­lated her.

    …if indeed Spitzer would say his wife was “indif­fer­ent” and “uncon­cerned” about him!…maybe this is why it would be much more for­give­able if he was fool­ing around with a woman “for free”…instead of being the same sort of pig that would go to a game pre­serve and shoot a cap­tive deer, just as another excerpt imag­ines

  6. Connie said on March 13th, 2008 at 9:46 am

    Kirk, see end of pre­vi­ous thread for the Saugatuck answer.

  7. Kafkaz said on March 13th, 2008 at 10:04 am

    Strip­pers often are pros­ti­tutes. All you have do to get a sense of the range of ser­vices many of them offer is talk to some men who fre­quent them, or spend a lit­tle time tour­ing some­thing like this. A mini-course in mod­ern sex­u­al­ity. The Hooker with a Heart of Gold prob­a­bly doesn’t even work as a stock char­ac­ter, any­more. Sorry, Miss Kitty!

  8. MichaelG said on March 13th, 2008 at 10:44 am

    There’s a web site run by a woman billed as a “Col­lege Girl Hooker”. I can’t link to it here at the office but I will later when I get home if some­body else hasn’t already done so. I for­get how I got there. I think it won some kind of blog award. Very inter­est­ing. No heart of gold here. She works in New York City and works solo, not as part of some agency. I haven’t looked at the blog since the Spitzer affair. Maybe she’ll have some­thing to say.

  9. alex said on March 13th, 2008 at 10:58 am

    “Toi­let Girls. Browse a huge selec­tion now…”

    I’m afraid to click on that google ad.

  10. Danny said on March 13th, 2008 at 11:29 am

    Another day, another whore named Ash­ley. Tsk tsk.

  11. brian stouder said on March 13th, 2008 at 11:30 am

    But if they make toi­lets TOO acco­mo­dat­ing, don’t we risk hav­ing more cases like this one (which we’ve all heard about by now), where a woman spent two years on her boyfriend’s john?

    http://​www​.msnbc​.msn​.com/​i​d​/​2​3​5​93885/

    an excerpt -

    “She is an adult; she made her own deci­sion,” said her boyfriend, Kory McFar­ren. “I should have got­ten help for her sooner; I admit that. But after a while, you kind of get used to it.” The case drew nation­wide atten­tion after Ness County Sher­iff Bryan Whip­ple said it appeared the Ness City woman’s skin had grown around the seat in the two years she appar­ently was in the bath­room.

    (Did the guy get her any­thing for those two Christ­mas sea­sons she missed? or for her birth­day? Books would have been good)

  12. Sue said on March 13th, 2008 at 11:34 am

    Brian – I won­der what Dr. Laura has to say about this sit­u­a­tion?

  13. Danny said on March 13th, 2008 at 12:35 pm

    Brian – I won­der what Dr. Laura has to say about this sit­u­a­tion?

    That this is Silda’s fault, some­how?

  14. michaelj said on March 13th, 2008 at 1:16 pm

    Con­nie,

    Did you burst into the shower with that request? Was any­body with you? Musi­cal instru­ments?

    If you need an answer about phys­i­ol­ogy, Dr. Laura’s your man (and maybe Ann Coulter’s), but you might want a sec­ond opin­ion from Doc­tor Mike Mar­shall (kine­si­ol­ogy).

    Track­ing down Spitzer was pure pay­back. Dum­b­ass was dum­b­ass enough, but he screwed with the wrong peo­ple. The inves­ti­ga­tion was run by a loyal Bushie from the USAt­tor­ney fir­ing days, and was based on bogus warn­ings to the USAtty’s office from Wall Street bankers about ‘structuring’–that thing drug deal­ers do to keep trans­ac­tions under FBI radar. Unadul­ter­ated witch­hunt. Done in by bizarre sex­ual com­pul­sions, but I’d say bust­ing pen­sion fund rapists was worth the pec­ca­dil­loes.

    And the Mann Act charges? Not in bil­lions of years. Just move along here. Noth­ing to see but mis­de­meanor solic­it­ing. Mean­while, Larry Craig still has a con­gres­sional office in Wash­ing­ton. Hook­ers may have been trav­el­ling busi­ness class, but, you know, it was just busi­ness, and nobody was trans­port­ing them any­where but over­paid USAir.

    Lady and crap­per? Maybe she was think­ing about the King, and I don’t mean Mitch Ryder.

    And isn’t Spitzer young enough to get the GOP youth­ful indis­cre­tion mul­li­gan? I mean, he’s not old as McCain, who’s clearly work­ing on his sec­ond tro­phy wife but wants to try the Pres­i­dent thing first. What’s the mat­ter with his staff that they don’t make the obvi­ous infi­delity link with Ray­gun? Even Barack loves Ron­nie.

  15. Danny said on March 13th, 2008 at 2:28 pm

    Blah blah blah blah, it’s all George Bush’s fault.

    Blah blah blah blah, it’s all Dick Cheney’s fault.

    Blah blah blah blah, Hal­ibur­ton, my friend. That’s the ticket.

    Blah blah blah blah, any­one with an R after their name. Evil, I tell you.

    I think that about sums up the last mil­lion posts.

  16. michaelj said on March 13th, 2008 at 2:32 pm

    Oh. And has every­body for­got­ten Ollie North’s bimbo, Fawn Hall, who stuffed shred­ded Iran-Contra evi­dence in her (appar­ently) Granny panties. Maybe it’s quib­bling, but I think there are politi­cians that get in trou­ble over sex, and there are politi­cians that get in trou­ble over sex while crit­i­ciz­ing another politi­cian for get­ting in trou­ble over sex, or, say, shred­ding the Con­sti­tu­tion. The lat­ter cou­ple get radio shows and Faux News face­time, and, I’d hope, a more des­per­ate and painful cir­cle in hell.

  17. del said on March 13th, 2008 at 2:33 pm

    Nancy, the McGee pas­sage was a joy to read.

    Did any­one see the 48 Hours 2 hour spe­cial last week about the for­mer strip­per who had her boyfriend mur­dered in remote Alaska? Com­pelling stuff. The woman was an absolute siren. Beat­i­ful, allur­ing, deadly and with­out “the whore’s look.” Her charm per­suaded a lover to mur­der another lover whom she’d taken a $1M life insur­ance pol­icy out on. She later mar­ried a physi­cian the day after he grad­u­ated from med school and earned her bach­e­lors and mas­ters degrees and started a fam­ily before her con­vic­tion. Any­way, unfor­get­tably haunt­ing.

  18. brian stouder said on March 13th, 2008 at 2:42 pm

    And isn’t she the one who got her whole mur­der plan from a detective/crime novel?

    (edit: it would be funny if it was a Laura Lipp­man one…)

  19. michaelj said on March 13th, 2008 at 2:43 pm

    Emper­ors Club? Spitzer’s Client 9. Does the buck stop there? I doubt they had nine clients. Who might Messrs One through Eight be? How did one name get out? Doesn’t the “strate­gic” leak make it rea­son­able to spec­u­late about other clients, and their iden­ti­ties?

  20. Dexter said on March 13th, 2008 at 3:29 pm

    “The col­lege stu­dent was a slack-jawed moron who said she was think­ing about maybe enrolling at a local sec­re­tar­ial school. Most of the rest were just garden-variety skanks lucky to have reached 25 with a full set of teeth.”

    If the decade would have been right I’d have sworn you had been led to my old girl­friends! Well, ten years before your story was filed they may have been miss­ing a few chom­pers way before age twenty-five.

    Actu­ally, I rarely went to those places in the FWA of the 1970′s.
    Some­times the guys dri­ving to and from the soft­ball games we played would just pull in and we’d go in and have a few brews.
    I may have this all mixed up, but I believe one skank-joint was the Hi-Spot on Anthony, there was one , at least, on West Main, and the “R” Club off Coliseum…many others…a cou­ple work-buddies always found trou­ble at a joint called The Boom-Boom Room on Cal­houn. I should have left this to other blog­gers because I don’t remem­ber much about that scene.
    I do recall hear­ing about all the wide-open activ­ity in those clubs dur­ing the Arm­strong admin­is­tra­tion. There was a place called The God­fa­ther Club some­where on the north side where god-awful sex acts were avail­able right out “in pub­lic” , I heard.
    Also, guys who like to pay for it had many options in old Fort Wayne…massage par­lors were abundant…just plain whore­houses, I heard.
    I mar­ried young and avoided all extra-curricular “fun.” But I never felt like I missed a god­dam thing. Every­one decides for them­selves , or has their com­pul­sions and desires decide their sex life. “I’m not sayin’, I’m just sayin’…”

  21. michaelj said on March 13th, 2008 at 3:32 pm

    Were y’all aware that John D. Mac­Don­ald was a good friend of War­ren Zevon’s? It may be hereti­cal to say this, but great as Travis McGee is, I think the char­ac­ter has been per­fected in Dave Robicheaux. Ezekiel Rawl­ins is bet­ter than both, and he’s got the best side­kick, Ray­mond “Mouse” Alexan­der who famously said:

    You said don’t shoot him, right? Well I didn’t. I choked him. You didn’t want him dead Easy, why you leave him with me?

    There’s a pretty good ver­sion of Darker than Amber that was made in the late 60s (I think), with Rod Tay­lor and the immor­tal Theodore Bikel as “Meyer”.

    Writ­ing detec­tive books must be daunt­ing when Ray­mond Chandler’s been, gone and done that. I like the one-offs about peo­ple given a moral push into reluc­tant and doomed inves­ti­ga­tion, like Smilla’s Sense of Snow and Cut­ter and Bone. Both were made into decent movies, and Gary Sinise play­ing Cap­tain Dan in the wheel­chair pla­gia­rized John Heard’s por­trayal of Alex Cut­ter.

  22. Laura said on March 13th, 2008 at 3:36 pm

    I’ve been lurk­ing for a while — thor­oughly enjoy your blog. Thought your reporter’s blood might get stirred up by a fun story in The New York Observer about how the NY Times got — and broke — the Spitzer story.

    http://​www​.observer​.com/​2​0​0​8​/​t​o​u​chable

  23. ashley said on March 13th, 2008 at 3:40 pm

    Ash­ley seems to have that Kim Kar­dashian look about her. And we know that she isn’t into things that are safe.

    Ashley…evidently, in a pre­vi­ous life, I was Rein­hard Hey­drich. A karma debt from hell…

  24. Sue said on March 13th, 2008 at 3:43 pm

    Just had a chance to read today’s offer­ing and sub­se­quent com­ments more care­fully:
    1. Guys: Are you really com­fort­able in a strip club? I have a friend who says it is one of the few places where he feels totally at home, but I sus­pect most guys would find it embar­rass­ing with­out a lot of alco­hol before­hand. I under­stand that the work­ers are trained to get the cus­tomers to buy lots of drinks. Seems obvi­ous, pushy and money-grubbing. Plus, the clubs always offer “the most beau­ti­ful women in [loca­tion]“. None of the beau­ti­ful women I know work in strip clubs. Where are they get­ting these babes from?
    2. Girls: Around here we call them “Deer Hunters’ Wid­ows Week­ends”. The ladies all head to the Sugar Shack or some such place that is offer­ing store-brand ver­sions of the Chip­pen­dales and sup­pos­edly they have a scream­ing good time. Is guy candy fun for you? I saw a male strip­per once, at a home party that promised a sur­prise and didn’t men­tion what it was. I was embar­rassed for him and for the peo­ple around me – they talked about him like he wasn’t even there. I admit that I am overly mod­est, but I was appalled at how eas­ily every­one got into it and for­got this guy could hear every­thing they said.
    3. Nancy: Your remark about the slack-jawed moron who was think­ing of going to sec­re­tar­ial school reminds me of the elected offi­cial (I can’t remem­ber if it was state or fed) who thought he had the answer to both the welfare-to-work prob­lem and the nurs­ing short­age prob­lem: just have these wel­fare moms become nurses! That’s all! If you don’t mind some­one who never actu­ally fin­ished high school dis­pens­ing your meds. So, on behalf of sec­re­taries every­where, may I express my out­rage? Sure, it wouldn’t be a med mixup, but just try to find that file.

  25. Jeff said on March 13th, 2008 at 4:02 pm

    That was just the book and chap­ter i was think­ing of, Nancy — but i couldn’t come up with the title and didn’t want to thumb through the shelf­ful to nail it down. And dead-eyed or not, she man­aged to . . . ah, read the book, folks. But the mechan­ics of it all Mac­Don­ald had down cold.

    I am pleas­antly sur­prised to find a point of agree­ment with michaelj — Bikel was pitch per­fect for Meyer. The rest of the movie didn’t quite do it for me, but oh for a good direc­tor and lead to put some of these on film. Mag­num, PI came close some­times.

    Mmmmm, The But­ler — http://​web​cams​.fbv​.mhe​.via​pointe​.com/​w​w​m​t​/​s​a​u​g​a​t​u​ck.jpg

  26. Kafkaz said on March 13th, 2008 at 4:14 pm

    MichaelG–Checked out that Con­fes­sions of a Col­lege Call Girl blog. Could be the recent surge of lit­er­ary hoaxes that has me won­der­ing how real it is. For what­ever rea­son, it just doesn’t read like an actual mem­oir, to me.

    Are we going to find out that it’s all just the post­menopausal yearn­ings of some granny with a good imag­i­na­tion, a lit­er­ary bent, and a bit of an approach/avoidance issue when it comes to men? Or maybe cre­ated for “gotcha, suck­ers” revenge by some book­ish girl with philosph­i­cal lean­ings and seri­ous writ­ing aspi­ra­tions who is pretty ticked by how easy it is to rivet drool­ing crowds with porn, and how hard it is to win even a sin­gle reader for her earnest poetry? It wouldn’t sur­prise me. It’s veddy veddy writ­ing work­shop, some­how. It’s like Play­boy Advi­sor meets Joy of Sex, only mostly with­out the joy, with just a hint of the Story of O thrown in for that req­ui­site edgy feel. Strange.

  27. Jeff said on March 13th, 2008 at 4:15 pm

    Sue — Many (many, pre-married, pre-seminary) years ago, when i was run­ning a sum­mer camp and had encoun­tered a series of daunt­ing obsta­cles that were over­come at the expense of my good humor, some senior staff mem­bers took me pris­oner on what was sup­posed to be my one night off a week (that i hadn’t taken for a month), and car­ried me into South Bend, Indi­ana, to an estab­lish­ment that appar­ently sold drinks to sad men while sad­der women removed their clothes. Music was tan­gen­tially involved (Flash­dance it wasn’t, though the neigh­bor­hood and bro­ken dreams were some­what sim­i­lar).

    I have never been more uncom­fort­able through a well-intended evening in my life, with one excep­tion. The lead per­former came off the stage at the end of a num­ber and told me that “the other gen­tle­men at my table had invited me to sit on your lap.” I cheer­fully declined, but pulled out a chair next to me and said, “Feel free to join us for how­ever long you’re sup­posed to be at our table.” They had already paid for her drink (see Mac­Don­ald for the skinny on that scam), and since the guys who brought me had left in dis­gust to review the juke­box selec­tions, we talked.

    She said Cheryl already had to do the next “dance” (a label i chose not to dis­pute), so why not relax a bit — we talked about the Cubs, the new coach at Notre Dame, and then she told me about what she hoped to do with her kid when she’d piled up enough from this job. I apol­o­gized for not hav­ing any cash on me to tip with, and she got up to leave say­ing “I wouldn’t have taken it any­way; that was kind of mean for them to bring you here.” I assured her i was delighted to have met her and talked a bit, and wished her well. We shook hands, and i thought then and still do that it was a plea­sure to have had a nor­mal human inter­ac­tion in that place, just to show it could hap­pen.

    Need i point out she hated her job, and hated even worse that she came to despise every man who patron­ized the joint — and she sus­pected they knew that she did, but some­how that was all part of the deal for them. Nor can i imag­ine will­ingly going back to such a place. Your mileage may vary, but the econ­omy of mutual con­tempt seems to be a uni­ver­sal addi­tive to the unhealthy mix.

  28. ashley said on March 13th, 2008 at 4:49 pm

    Sue:

    Com­fort­able? No more or less than any other place. I tend to like dive bars more than “upscale mar­tini bars” where you can’t even get a mar­tini with gin. Basi­cally, I get bored with strip clubs after about 3-5 min­utes. It was fine when I was 18, but now, what­ever.

    I dated a strip­per (sur­prise!) for a cou­ple of months about 20 or so years ago. We met at a cast­ing call for a movie…a legit movie if you need to ask. She invited me to her work where she “danced” and I showed up and voila, it was a strip club.

    I hap­pened to go to high school with the man­ager, who came back from the army and said, with­out pity or pride and with a tad bit of res­ig­na­tion: “I, unfor­tu­nately, seem to have a tal­ent for man­ag­ing strip­pers”.

    A seat near the pole was avail­able, so I bel­lied up and did the worst thing you could ever pos­si­bly do to a strip­per: I made eye con­tact. Yeah, I didn’t even look at T or A; I just stared into their eyes. When she got off stage a cou­ple of dancers later, she told me that the other girls said it was the most unnerv­ing thing that ever hap­pens to them, and I had to quit it.

    In any case, her story was much like that of the hero­ine in Carl Hiaasen’s “Strip Tease”, except she a) had sil­i­cone implants that rated about an 8 on Moh’s scale of hard­ness and b) she wasn’t nearly as bright. One kid, crazy ex-husband, small apart­ment, rich sugar dad­dys try­ing to get her to be their one (or two or seven) and only and so on. Way too much drama for a 24 year old.

    Such is life.

  29. Danny said on March 13th, 2008 at 5:11 pm

    Very accu­rate take on things, Jeff. Back in my pre-Christian col­lege days, I met this totally hot, well-endowed Scotch-Irish red­head when I was out with some friends. We hit it off and when she told me she was a strip­per, I really didn’t believe her (too inno­cent look­ing) and even if it was true, I thought what would it hurt to have a lit­tle fun with her.

    Long story made short, we ended up liv­ing together for two or three years. Very pas­sion­ate, some­times stormy deal. Now, at first, she didn’t think she hated what she was doing for a liv­ing, but it dawned on her after com­ing home a cry­ing mess a few nights that she really did hate it. I never pres­sured her to quit, but I did tell her to seek coun­sel. Well that opened up a very sad can of worms that revealed a his­tory of sex­ual abuse and repressed mem­ory.

    She ended up quit­ting for a while, but then wanted to go back to it. I cared for her too much to watch her destroy her­self, so I told her if she went back to it, I was leav­ing. And the rest is his­tory.

    All of the women she worked with had been sex­u­ally abused as chil­dren. Every one of them.

    And I never really cared much for hang­ing out in those places. I just went because my girl­friend and most of her friends worked there. As such, I was in the in-crowd. Hang­ing with the bik­ers, play­ing pool in the back. Not a cus­tomer. The con­tempt we all felt for the “cus­tomers” was pretty strong.

    It was an odd few years there. Try­ing to make it through engi­neer­ing school while being in a rela­tion­ship with a totally dam­aged per­son who I cared a lot about. Eye-opening, to say the least.

  30. Dexter said on March 13th, 2008 at 5:15 pm

  31. michaelj said on March 13th, 2008 at 5:30 pm

    I have never under­stood the allure of strip clubs, or “tit­tie bars” as we call ‘em down South. When I worked in Boston, clients would invari­ably sug­gest a lunch break at 11:30, and, just as invari­ably, sug­gest going around the cor­ner to the Com­bat Zone. My part­ner at the time (and my best friend to this day) is a very beau­ti­ful woman, and you could have bet suc­cess­fully they’d been ogling her all morn­ing, and were get­ting some sort of pocket pool self-gratification by sug­gest­ing she go to the strip club with the boyos. We’d tell them we had other plans but they should help them­selves, and we knew the day was shot.

    Going to strip clubs is one of those things, like can­ni­bal­ism
    and pre­med­i­tated mur­der that mam­mals eschew, other than humans and rats. What’s the point? I did skip school once in Detroit to go see Lot­tie the Body, but that was old-school bur­lesque house ecdysi­asm. Lot­tie was pretty amaz­ing but she was pre­ceded by a woman who went about a buck ten eighty, and a work­ing mom with a Cae­sarean scar. Vaude­ville comic too, and that was seri­ously ugly. This was some­thing sub­ur­ban kids going to school on 7 Mile did, like drink­ing Ancient Age with the 12th Street old­timers in the bleach­ers at Tiger Sta­dium.

    Brian Stouder: I don’t care who wins them, cau­cuses are bum­rush affairs run by intim­i­da­tion, by peo­ple who’ve decided to appoint them­selves arbiters of cor­rect­ness. You know, mid­dle school imposed on the polit­i­cal process, in the Bier­garten. Democ­racy is never an option, and some pigs just know they’re more equal than oth­ers.

  32. nancy said on March 13th, 2008 at 5:32 pm

    Michael J., Zevon was friends with Ross Mac­don­ald, aka Ken­neth Mil­lar, not John D.

    Learned fas­ci­nat­ing things about John D. just a few months ago — the WSJ used him as an exam­ple of how to man­age an artis­tic career with good busi­ness sense. (He was a Har­vard MBA.) Said he had the first three Travis nov­els in the can before he sent the first to his agent, so they could come out bim-bam-boom and build momen­tum and audi­ence fast. The first three are pretty slim, but pack a pow­er­ful punch. Reread­ing them, which I do every so often, I’m struck that they’re both dated and time­less. I love when Travis goes off on a tan­gent about his awe­some sound sys­tem (play­ing Eydie Gormé), then another one about some aspect of human behav­ior that never gets old. What a guy.

  33. Stephanie said on March 13th, 2008 at 5:52 pm

    This is totally unre­lated to today’s post, but what do you think of The Absti­nence Teacher so far? I thought it was some good stuff. I once wrote Tom Per­otta an email, and he actu­ally wrote me back. Oh, to have his career!

  34. nancy said on March 13th, 2008 at 6:35 pm

    I got another big chunk of it read today on the sta­tion­ary bike — thank God for those easel/book/magazine racks — and I’m enjoy­ing it very much. I’ll have to check out the Ama­zon reviews Danny was talk­ing about, but so far I don’t think it’s a car­i­ca­ture at all. But that’s just me. Next stop: “Elec­tion.” After Laura Lipp­man.

  35. Dexter said on March 13th, 2008 at 7:09 pm

    Name drop­ping: I have con­cluded that in the US a per­son has to live a very shel­tered life with­out bump­ing into or spot­ting at least a few celebri­ties . I won’t bore you with the list of big names I have heck­led or just seen walk­ing around or wait­ing for a train or air­plane; my point is that since I didn’t have a home com­puter until seven years ago, I never emailed or chat­ted with any media stars.
    Except David Simon. He used to come online right after The Wire Sea­son One epis and answer ques­tions and explain scenes when peo­ple had thoughts and ideas. One night we went one-on-one for 10 minutes…well…I thought that was pretty fuck­ing cool.
    He would sign on “Simon here…”

  36. Jeff said on March 13th, 2008 at 7:10 pm

    Any­body hyar’bouts read “Had a Good Time” by Robert Olen But­ler? It’s an odd lit­tle tour de force, a series of uncon­nected short sto­ries all based on actual pic­ture post­cards he picked up through the years, from back 1890-1940 when you could get a pic­ture taken and turned read­ily into a post­card, so some views were stock and kitschy, and oth­ers were “ripped from the head­lines,” only you didn’t know what head­line. He would work in what­ever was on the post­card into his story, which was nec­es­sar­ily cryp­tic and brief, and left plenty of room for elab­o­ra­tion.

    Good book all around, and easy to read in chunks. Read it on an air­plane when it came out a cou­ple years back, and have been slowly piece-reading it again since.

  37. Dexter said on March 13th, 2008 at 7:13 pm

    Dammit­tall! I can’t just go to YouTube any­more when a song crosses my mind, because Pan­dora has my speak­ers occu­pied, edu­cat­ing me and expos­ing me to the best music I never heard before…I love the way Pan­dora uti­lizes and presents the music genome.

  38. Linda said on March 13th, 2008 at 7:34 pm

    The young woman in ques­tion will get hurt for the rest of her life in that no mat­ter what else she does from here on in, she will be the Spitzer hooker. He will retire from pub­lic life awhile, but some well-appointed friends will qui­etly see that he gets a think tank sinecure to keep him from watch­ing too much day­time t.v.. If she had been found to be a pros­ti­tute years from now, after some life of pub­lic achieve­ment, this inci­dent would have been a weird foot­note, but now she will have to opt for total obscu­rity or freak show sta­tus, noth­ing in-between.

    The “too much women’s stud­ies b.s.?” A lot of that comes from middle-class fem­i­nist guilt, a fear of being dis­re­spect­ful of women’s choices, even when the choices soci­ety cre­ates for poor peo­ple are only bad or worse, and the guilt some sex worker’s cus­tomers feel, who then try to ratio­nal­ize using paid sex ser­vices. I agree, a lot of it is b.s.

  39. Dexter said on March 13th, 2008 at 7:47 pm

    Linda:
    As the late Mike Ryoko wrote when doing a story on an unhappy lot­tery jack­pot win­ner, “A mil­lion dol­lars can buy me a lot of friends.”
    He then wrote that he would go to some­place like the French Riv­iera and have a sign made read­ing “I have a mil­lion dol­lars, want to be my friend?”

    Miss Dupres will never have to work that line another night. She’ll get a $2 mil­lion advance on her book, and live , well-fed, in her pent­house. Ash­ley Youmans. No fuck­ing won­der she changed her name.

  40. david c roach said on March 13th, 2008 at 7:59 pm

    its the madonna-whore dual­ity of mans and wom­ans nature.
    which has already been expounded upon, much more elo­quently than me.
    a few obser­va­tions.
    happy hus­bands usu­ally dont stray. men want a saint around the home, and a whore in bed.
    all women “sell it” on any given day, for what­ever the cur­rent mar­ket price is, and what the woman wants that date.
    a few free drinks, and a roll in the hay. up to a rich man, with a man­sion, and a mer­cedes.
    man- women will dump you if they get a bet­ter offer. they will leave you for a bet­ter offer.
    bad luck with the ladies? rent. its not free milk, but its bet­ter than a “cow”
    whats the dif­fer­ence between a hooker, a mis­tress, and a wife?
    the hooker asks: are you through?
    the mis­tress asks: was it good for you?
    and the wife thinks:I think I’ll paint the ceil­ing blue.

    As an adven­ter­ous sin­gle male, I have enjoyed the vices that forw wayne has had to offer through­out the years. I was a reg­u­lar at the “r” club- beer. pool girls. per­fect!
    close to home-a sub/grinder; a few beers, some pool with nude girls, and a few dol­lar dances- sum­mer sweaty pretty boobs, and girls. ahhh.
    the scorpion- cor­ner broadway/taylor- mud­wrestling!! dirty, grubby fun!
    the cozy clubs on goshen road…
    worked at show­girl 1-2-3 as chef/kitchen man­ager. ran for con­gress as a adult club advo­cate.
    worked at stewies- great food, nice mar­i­lyn mon­roe pho­tos.
    worked at body shop/boom-booms. boom booms was a great place. got a few free lap dances from my boss lady- can your job say that??!!!
    and of course- sail­ing the 7 seas, liv­ing like a pirate- asian p-ssy.
    when I think back on all the great women, strip­pers, hook­ers I’ve dated, slept with, 3-ways-lots of them-menage-a-trois.
    and all with­out catch­ing any STD’s at all! well, there was that lit­tle club overseas-but we wont go into that here.
    I will die a happy man, with my last thought being “all the girls i’ve loved before”-all sev­eral hun­dred of them!!!no to brag, but its true! look­ing for mrs. right, or right now- what­ever. as I said – they all sell it if the price is right.
    god i love the sin­gle life!

  41. Connie said on March 13th, 2008 at 8:14 pm

    TMI

  42. alex said on March 13th, 2008 at 8:29 pm

    I’m with Linda. If Dawn Wells couldn’t shake the Mary Ann image until she got busted with pot, how on earth is Mizz Dupre ever gonna be known as any­thing but that whore. That whore that did what­ever it was Silda wouldn’t do, no less. The book advance and Play­boy pic­to­r­ial money will have been spent on drugs and alco­hol by the time she’s thirty, I’m bet­tin’. Maybe she’ll have a career renais­sance if she lives to get pulled over at age 69.

  43. Dexter said on March 13th, 2008 at 9:06 pm

    damn, david c. roach…”… well, there was that lit­tle club overseas-but we wont go into that here.”
    Why hold THAT back? But only sev­eral hun­dred? You got some catchin’ up to do!
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    alex: Mary Ann is the kind we love uncon­di­tion­ally.

  44. Harl Delos said on March 13th, 2008 at 9:21 pm

    Ashley’ll get book­ings on the basis of her noto­ri­ety, and if she can sing, she might end up jump-starting a career. Look at what Joey Heather­ton did with some tal­ent (although not a lot), and what that babe from Bay­watch did, with even less.

    Makes me all verklempt, though, to think of how that poor girl will suf­fer the rest of her life….

  45. Dexter said on March 13th, 2008 at 9:46 pm

    Harl: Remem­ber those “Per­fect Sleeper, Per­fect Sleeper [mat­tress] by Serta” com­mer­cials that Joey Heather­ton did circa 1972? Hottest thing on TV, I thought. Then years later I heard she had been linked to Imus , uh, roman­ti­cally. Broke my heart.

  46. Dexter said on March 14th, 2008 at 12:23 am

  47. mouse said on March 14th, 2008 at 12:54 am

    David-where was Stewies’. Been there ,can’t remem­ber where?

  48. Laura said on March 14th, 2008 at 1:17 am

    David C. Roach:

    You say you’re sin­gle? Amaz­ing! Your post makes you seem like quite the catch.

  49. Harl Delos said on March 14th, 2008 at 7:24 am

    I was a reg­u­lar at the “r” club- beer. pool girls. per­fect!

    There was a woman there who danced to “Brid­get the Midget.” Can’t remem­ber her name, maybe “Holly”?

    Most of the girls in most of clubs come on with dirty, stringy hair and bad makeup, shuf­fle around a bit, and remove 90% of their out­fit in the first 30 sec­onds, then stum­ble around for the rest of their set in a daze as if they were stoned out of their mind. And maybe they were.

    Some of the higher-class joints, like the Brass Ass on Mon­mouth Street in New­port (across the river from Cincin­nati), the dancers are awake, the makeup at least equal to you’d expect from a cashier at Mal­o­leys, expen­sive, professionally-sewn break­away cos­tumes, and an actual strip-tease dance. Now, “higher-class” is a rel­a­tive term. You can smell the mildew when you walk in the place, and when they say a two-drink min­i­mum, they put two cans of not-too-cool beer in front of you when you enter, pop­ping both tabs, so that the sec­ond one starts going flat before you have a chance to start sip­ping the first.

    But Holly, if that was her name, was the most impres­sive dancer I ever saw. She had mag­nif­i­cent cos­tumes, her high-energy danc­ing was per­formed with olympic pre­ci­sion, and she looked more whole­some than Mary Tyler Moore. She didn’t per­form a strip-tease; there was noth­ing at all sex­ual about her danc­ing. She was danc­ing in the near-nude, but it was a work of art. You could have broad­cast it on PBS with­out old bid­dies call­ing to com­plain.

    One of the other patrons told me he went to high school with her – maybe South Side? – and that her mother sewed the break-away cos­tumes she wore. And she didn’t act like she hated what she was doing, except that every­body asked for “Brid­get the Midget”; she got tired of doing it over and over, so she started refus­ing to do it unless some­one tipped her $20 in advance.

    The girl sings pretty well!

    Maybe if she had a decent arrange­ment of a decent song, and a good pro­ducer. She seems to stay on key, and her voice has a pleas­ant tone, which is quite enough to work as a backup singer, but could she fill a the­atre in Bran­son five years from now, when Spitzer is old news?

    I feel mean-spirited say­ing that, espe­cially given my own lack of tal­ent in that area, but singing is like writ­ing. Every­one thinks they can write, and most peo­ple have trou­ble com­pos­ing a gro­cery list. Frank Sina­tra, Junior can stay on key, and he has a pleas­ant voice, but he was a dud. Joey Heather­ton had those qual­i­fi­ca­tions, too, and she could dance fairly well, too, but I don’t think I’ve heard of her per­form­ing since Dean Mar­tin had a weekly TV show.

  50. MichaelG said on March 14th, 2008 at 8:06 am

    Ahh, I once had a letch for Joey Heather­ton .

    Kafkaz, I know a reader may have the impulse to arrive at a quick eval­u­a­tion and judg­ment when look­ing at some­thing like the Col­lege Girls what­ever. While it is cer­tainly the reader’s pre­rog­a­tive to do so, it isn’t nec­es­sary to either take her com­pletely at face value or to dis­miss her as a fake. The judg­ment may be left in sus­pense. I have no idea if the writer if that blog is what she pur­ports to be and don’t par­tic­u­larly care. I’m aware that it’s not an anno­tated soci­o­log­i­cal study pub­lished by a uni­ver­sity press. I’m happy to take her obser­va­tions for what they’re worth along with all the other stuff I’ve heard here and there over the years. I find inter­est­ing her obser­va­tions on women and their self image and on hook­ers and their atti­tudes toward their cus­tomers. That wouldn’t change if she were proved a fraud or proved gen­uine.

  51. Sue said on March 14th, 2008 at 9:42 am

    David: Well, I did ask the ques­tion. But Holy Gods…

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  53. david c roach said on March 15th, 2008 at 1:03 pm

    I dont know why- I just pre­fer “edgy” girls. at least you know she’s a gold dig­ger from the get go. and only the ones who can carry on a con­ver­sa­tion. sin­gle women at office/desk jobs are sooooo bor­ing. bla bla bla. yadaya­dayada.
    I’m a prize catch- i’m not stu­pid. i’m edu­cated. i can carry on a con­ver­sa­tion. unfor­tu­nately, theres a lot of women who cant, so i get bored eas­ily, and lose inter­est.
    Stewies at located on cold­wa­ter road, across from glen­brook mall- right out the dri­ve­way from macys.
    It was fun work­ing there on the weekends- i’d get to auti­tion lots of girls from out of town, who wanted to do some­thing on a dare, it seemed. after check­ing id’s for legal danc­ing age, i’d coach them- dont be scared. its just like a day at the beach in a bikini. just focus on your music, and have fun. tease the guys. you’re in con­trol.
    they usu­ally had cos­tumes they just bought at the mall, and some music- so it was pre-planned “lets go to fort wayne, and be strip­pers for a day”.
    oncen they made a lot of money, and real­ized its pretty easy, and all the men wer­ent all creeps, and some of the sin­gle men were even kind of hand­some (espe­cially the DJ-me!); they would return on a semi fre­quent basis.
    nat­u­rally, you want girls to work a lot, so we could all get to know them, and trust them- dont want thieves rum­mag­ing around the dressing/locker room, going through the girls stuff, look­ing for money.
    Most pro­fes­sional strip clubs/gentlemens clubs are run very much like a vegas, or other night club/show club.
    and many arent. it all depends on the own­ers, the mgt, and the other staff.
    inter­est­ing, isnt it?

  54. Laura said on March 15th, 2008 at 2:17 pm

    icky

  55. Harl Delos said on March 15th, 2008 at 4:03 pm

    Stewies at located on cold­wa­ter road, across from glen­brook mall- right out the dri­ve­way from macys.

    Sounds like L. S. Ayres is Macy’s now. I was think­ing that there was a tire dealer across from that entrance.

    Is it the build­ing where Ollie Fret­ter was located?

  56. Hattie said on March 18th, 2008 at 12:15 am

    That cold­ness. Yes. I expe­ri­enced that once when I got a man­i­cure and pedi­cure. The young woman treated my hands and feet like pieces of meat. It was inde­scrib­ably odd. So Johns accept that. Strange.