If you get bogged down in the spinach of Reagan tributes, try a little buttercream with this NYT trend story on the latest obsession among the betrothed: The truly over-the-top wedding. Sample passage:
Although some degree of perfectionism is present in every blusher-length veil and ribbon garland – in every hand-lettered invitation, silver cake knife and, lately, every chocolate fountain that a bride feels she must have – this perfectionism, wedding professionals say, has ballooned into an obsession.
“We have people who have meltdowns over what hankie to buy,” said Barbara Barrett, the owner of the Bridal Mall in Niantic, Conn., who in part blames the media’s focus on lavish weddings and what she calls “the stupid romance” of reality television.
Mindy Weiss, a Beverly Hills party planner who helped the actress Kate Beckinsale with her May nuptials, and Jessica Simpson in 2002, said she gets e-mail messages every week from brides-to-be asking how they can have a wedding like Ms. Simpson’s on a budget of less than $20,000. Ms. Weiss advises them to scatter candles around the room. “I truly feel for them,” said Ms. Weiss, whose clients typically have budgets of more than $100,000.
One California bride, on a quest to be size 8 by her wedding day, had her jaws wired shut for two months. “She could only eat through a straw,” said Monique Lhuillier, a Los Angeles bridal designer who made the woman’s dress. And more of her customers, Ms. Lhuillier said, are buying two gowns – a traditional style to please their mothers for the ceremony and a second, trendier model to wear during the reception.
I was amazed at the nice throwdown Alan and I were able to put on for a budget of around $5,000. Granted, that was 11 years ago and the dress was polyester, but I discovered the two keys to a truly exceptional wedding, which I will share with you now, and save you $95,000 or so:
1) Open bar is worth whatever you pay, and;
2) The guest list is everything.
And that is all.